How to create your 2018 ‘self-worth’ checklist

Constantly, we find ourselves questioning our self-worth. It is so easy to slip into unhappiness and self-doubt.

In 2018 we want our Motherland Moguls to walk around feeling fly and unstoppable because there is a direct relationship between self-worth and living up to one’s full potential. We do not want you to feel any less of yourself.

Rock 2018 by your standards

So, take a look at the year 2018 self-worth checklist:

Do what you like and like what you do

I like the fact that I am no longer where I used to be, but I have loved every step of the way. Recognizing that it needn’t fit into anybody’s expectation of me. Really, there is no yardstick for success.

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The point is ‘Do what you like, and like what you do’. In making a decision, career choice, a new friend, or whatever. It is a boost of self-worth when you can stand up for your choices every time, and say, I am proud of what I did.

Maintain your lane

It is so tempting to want to be like the other person, but really this is falling short of your authenticity. The real need here is staying in your lane. Bonang Matheba and Toke Makinwa are two different media queens successful in their own rights.

The right motivation is to stand out in your game, not to be like the other person. Don’t feel pressured to be like anybody; it is the easiest way to fall short of who you are and become nervous. You are highly confident in being yourself.

Get your mindset right

Self-worth is not a tangible, it is formed by a mindset. It is not in your realities first. If you settle for less in your thinking, expectations, goals, ambitions, that is you selling yourself short already. Focus on getting your mindset right.

Let affirmations do the talking

Like I said, don’t sell yourself short. Even in words. Don’t feel any less because of your realities. Keep talking the talk, and keep it optimistic, and confident. Affirmations are what we say we are because we believe it.

Set attainable goals

“You cannot coman kee your sef” – (Nigerian pidgin/slang meaning; Don’t put so much pressure on yourself). Setting overwhelming goals can make you sad when you don’t eventually meet-up with your expectations. There is a direct relationship between self-worth and achievements. It is great to set S.M.A.R.T goals.

Find a genuine cheerleader

A little journey down memory lane: In secondary school, I read this book called ‘21 types of negative friends’. It became a game-changer in my life, as it opened my eyes to the fact that friendships can diminish your self-worth.

Friends affect your self-worth. In words, in vibes, in how they treat you. As humans, we are constantly needing affirmations, support, and good vibes to make us feel great. What are you without a friend that doesn’t hand you that? You cannot be at your best.

Let your light so Shine

Letting your light so shine is a reminder that you have it. Don’t sell yourself short. You are doing this not for anyone, but for yourself. In being the light, you amaze yourself, and you keep your confidence bar high.

Don’t attach your self-worth to material things

They are called material things for a reason. Beware that your money, association, and possession can be easily lost. Think about it; If you lose it all would you feel any less? Are you thick because you are wearing such and such thing or hanging with such and such person or receiving a ton of compliments? Remember self-worth is a mindset. Even in a sack bag feel as great as when you are in a Ferrari. Don’t feel great because of material stuff.

Now that you have your self-worth checklist, you are ready to nail your 2018.

About Ekemini Akpakpan

Ekemini is an Administrator who is passionate about structures, putting-things-together, and implementing systems for organisational efficiency. She's your fairy god-mother, who loves to share wit through compelling contents for the feminine space. She's the General Manager of African Women in Leadership Organisation, and the curator of #SHEVOICES.

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