To me, setting a goal is like aiming that bowling ball at the white pins; the amount of effort and calculation put in determines how many bottles will be cleared which is why your goals do not matter more than the mode of setting them.
I’ll give you a better illustration. Setting a goal is similar to aiming a missile at a spaceship from this planet, you don’t know for sure if your aim is going to bring results but you just close your eyes and do it anyway!
IT MUST SCARE YOU
The number one lesson which is fundamental to setting goals is going way beyond your limit. Now I’m not asking you to be unrealistic, set a goal within your human capacity just let it scare you a bit.
How does your own goal scare you? You know you’re scared of your set goals when:
I. It’s within the limits a motherland mogul like you does not have
II. It’s something you can do even though you think that you cannot attempt it
III. You don’t believe it’s something you can do or someplace you can get to
When it comes to the art of setting goals, my dear you must be very realistic. For instance, you shouldn’t submit your CV for a job which requirements are higher than your professional level knowing fully well that you cannot get those papers before the interview.
You must meet the requirements of your requirements! You have to strive to reach the eligibility level and never relax on your oars.
UPGRADE YOUR OS
I know this is 2018 so everyone probably knows OS means Operating System right? Right. Ever wondered why Apple keeps upgrading the performance level of their gadgets? To keep up with the consumer market! Same way you cannot stop being eligible!
You have to continue being the best person for that position, the one they are losing out on if they don’t put their monies on! How do you do this?
I. Get professional
The ‘masters syndrome’ in today’s Nigeria has ravaged most appointment seekers. What they don’t know is that professional certification singles you out of the master’s multitude.
You need to attend a course today, start from somewhere, be it WIMBIZ or a Nigerian Women Techsters training just do something!
II. Build your experience
Fill your resume with internship/externship experiences, work for free if you have to!
III. Get out of your comfort zone
Your comfort zone is that place in your existence where you feel totally at peace, rested and fulfilled. I will tell you a secret today (promise not to tell nobody?), your goal will never be in your comfort zone!
Beyonce had to go solo, leaving behind friendships and carbs to become who she is, Malala went over the fence of children and women not being heard in a rather conservative state and Joe Okei-Odumakin had so many visits to detention and prisons to be an activist.
None of these people felt entirely happy leaving the comfort of friendship, being obedient to repugnant laws and the comfort of their bed and peace to be moguls but they did anyway!
That’s my point exactly! Don’t reject offers in other regions! Stop telling yourself you’re too young! Stop telling yourself you’re a woman! Just stop!
Learn something outside of your known area of specialization, think of a business idea someone in your society is not taking up, be creative.
IV. Don’t try to be regular
Try setting goals negating what you were expected to do. For instance, in the legal profession, most ladies decide to work in the civil service to minimize stress in order to combine law with making a home but some outstanding ones still take up jobs as company secretaries, private practice, maritime legal experts etc.
Sometimes our purpose lies in our ability to think outside of the box, in order to get the honey out of the rock, you might have to roll up your denim and begin to cut it out instead of just taking your mind off it totally.
These tips are great life builders and I hope they help someone.
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