The single years can be fun and productive, but in some societies, the stigma that arises when you start getting close to a certain age can become overwhelming.
Beyond that, how can you make your single years transformational and fruitful before settling down? Here are some tips to help you:
1. Give more than you receive
This is the best time to start practicing how to share. When you get married, you’ll have to share your life with your spouse and if you have always felt that people were invading your space, this is the best time to start practicing.
Smile more, show courtesy, give out some things that you don’t need and volunteer with your time.
2. Start working on things that challenge your self-worth
Do you have issues with being confident? This is the best time to seek therapy on that. Do you feel you’re not tall or beautiful enough?
This is the best time to start seeing yourself in a positive light. Take time to evaluate what makes you feel less and start appreciating it.
In marriage, you wouldn’t want your spouse to be the source of your happiness because sometimes you’ll need to learn to enjoy your alone time. Nobody can complete you so start learning to love yourself.
3. Learn to manage your money
If you spend without a budget, plan or savings then you want to learn to manage your finance. You can start saving and investing now.
You can research on apps that allow you to save and invest and also learn more on business opportunities.
4. Learn to manage your home
If you can’t clean your space, then start owning your space well without the intention of your spouse arranging everything for you.
Learn to clean every corner of your house and practice good and healthy hygiene.
5. Be a praying person
Marriage has its own battles and you don’t want to go into marriage with an entitlement mentality.
You want to start praying for yourself, your spouse and children ahead. Learn to build a relationship with God in your single years so that you don’t build your world around your spouse alone.
6. This is time to work on your insecurities
There’re people who’ll get married and try to control or manipulate their spouse because of trust issues. This is time to stop projecting your fears on your partner.
Seek therapy and closure. It usually stems from your past experiences and it is better to seek for healing before you settle down.
7. Let go of pride
If you’ve pride issues, this is the time to start seeking professional help. Pride kills the beauty of marriage.
Don’t assume that your excesses will be managed. Pride comes before a fall.
8. Practice self-control
If you think marriage will help you to stop playing the field, that’s a mistake. Self-control is important because you won’t be having sex every day.
9. Start learning little act of commitment
Marriage works because of two committed people. Commitment should be practiced even when things are not going your way. It starts with your thoughts and decisions.
10. Travel to a new place
One of the beautiful things you can do in your single years is to go to new places and try new things. if you cannot afford to visit a different country, try traveling to another state to tour and meet new people.
11. Invest in your personal development
You should also use this period to read books, attend seminars and invest in yourself. I can’t emphasize this enough.
A lot of singles find it difficult to invest in their emotional life and it can be frustrating at the end of the day. Save yourself the stress of being hurt and clueless.
Learn and relearn. Learn about your personality type, your values, your deal-breaker, communication, love and apology languages, and so many other things.
Which of these do you want to start doing?