MUST-READ: 6 Things To Start Doing For Yourself In 2020

When you look back on 2019, what comes to your mind? Do you focus on the pains, regrets, and mistakes you made or do you concentrate on the strength you gained and all the blessings that came your way?

Since this is the beginning of a new decade, here’s a positive to-do list for the year ahead. With 2020 now in full swing, keep doing these 6 things for yourself:

1. Embrace your humanness and give yourself more credit

Human is the only real label you’re born with. However, it’s easy to get so focused on what others tell you that you forget how far you’ve come and what you’ve managed.

Give yourself some credit and appreciate all that you are.

2. Make your happiness a priority

Just in case you’ve forgotten, you matter A LOT. Your needs matter too! If you fail to put your needs first or look out for yourself, you hurt yourself more than you can ever imagine.

3. Enter new relationships for the right reasons

Every relationship whether romantic, business or friendship has a purpose. Focus on starting relationships with dependable and honest people – people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be.

4. Forgive yourself and others

Ever heard, forgiveness is not for the other person but for yourself? Stop rehashing old wounds and reliving the pain of the past, but forgive yourself and let go of the pain.

5. Build up your confidence

It’s never too late to chase after your dreams. Don’t think you’re left behind; start from where you are and work your way up towards where you want to go. Every day and step is necessary.

6. Track how you invest your energy and make productive shifts

You can’t do the same thing and expect change. Be mindful of what you spend your time on and focus on what really matters.

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How to Achieve your 2019 year resolutions

Happy New Year Motherland Moguls. Let’s jump right into the year, shall we?

More than half of all year resolutions fail, but this year, they don’t have to be yours. Many people find it difficult to maintain and accomplish their resolutions.

Here is a list of things you can do to help make sure you accomplish the goals you set for the New year, create a plan on how to reach it, and become part of the small group of people that successfully achieve their goal.

Believe in yourself

Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.”-  Samuel Johnson.

Your values in life determine your beliefs, about yourself and the world around you. When you believe in yourself and chose to be a good person you will find yourself to be more positive and successful in life.

Believing in yourself is the first step to success whether it means your life, your career, or simply your confidence, and in that lies your power.

Say it again and again

The more you say it, the more you believe it. The more you believe it, the truer it will become as you strengthen yourself and your confidence!

The beginning of a new year is a good time to make a resolution to change your behavior in some way because you know millions of people are doing the same thing. So you get positive reinforcement when family members, friends, and coworkers talk about making and trying to stick with resolutions.

You feel like you’re part of a worldwide self-improvement movement – and you are!

Be Accountable

People make better choices and perform at a higher level when they know they are being watched by others. The reasoning is simple when you are held accountable for your actions, you will work harder.

Share your goals with people around you. It’s important to have another person ask you about your progress. When there is someone else other than yourself holding you accountable, you are more likely to get your tasks completed

Track your  progress

What separates a person from achieving their goals and not achieving their goals is staying focused and being persistent in following through. There are many different ways to track your progress toward your goals.

Look at the big picture

Why do you wanna accomplish this certain thing? What is the purpose? Think about these things and answer these questions with the end result in mind. Take the time to reflect upon your goals and imagine what the big picture looks like. motivation.

Plan and Organize

Everyone has dreams and goals, but without planning and organizing what you need to do, you’ll get nowhere


Celebrating your wins not only feels great physically, but it reinforces the positive attitude and behavior you want to show up when you face a new challenge or opportunity.

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Lifelong Learning: 5 Lies You Tell Yourself

What comes to mind when you think of “lifelong learning”? Oh, wait. Did you just roll your eyes and give a defeated sigh? Girl, we know the feeling.

Some of your feelings might be valid but here are some thoughts you might have that are definitely wrong.

Here are some of the lies you probably tell yourself all year round which eventually hinders your growth:

I have a degree. What am I still learning?

Big mistake, sister. When did you graduate? 2, 5, 10 years ago? The world is changing fast and we need to evolve.

 Standing in one spot only means that others are going to overtake you and take opportunities that should’ve been yours.

Look at Nokia. How long did it take for them to lose their position as Number 1 phone maker? To be a successful Motherland Mogul, you need to keep learning the new trends in your industry.

I am an expert in my field

It’s very easy for us to settle for what we think we know is best. But does learning ever stop? If you have plans to branch out and innovate your brand, you need to prepare yourself!

Are there other things you learn from other industries that may be linked to yours?

There is so much more to learn about your passions, hobbies, and interests. Ask yourself questions such as ‘how badass is my excel skills’? When was the last time I gave a presentation that was wowed my audience?

Take the time to improve and build on what you already have and what you need to make yourself better.

I don’t have money for courses.

In this day and age, you don’t have to spend a lot of money to learn! With a stable internet connection and time, you can access so many free resources online.

From Coursera, Udemy, Skillshare, YouTube and the many blogs and articles out there; the options are endless.

But once you choose to make this investment, you start the journey towards a successful and educated life.

I don’t have time to learn.

Let’s rephrase that as “I don’t make out time for learning new things because it’s not a priority.” Doesn’t sound nice, does it?

Well, it’s true. We all make time for things that we consider priorities. Catching up on social media, binging on Netflix, attending owambe parties. But if we think about it, we spend many hours every week on things that aren’t really adding to our bottom line.

If you’re one of those superwomen who resists all such temptations and still can’t find the time to learn, what about the time you spend in traffic? With the developments of education and technology, you can learn anywhere and everywhere!

So, don’t make excuses for wanting to learn. If you believe in investing in yourself, then you will make the time to learn more.

I’m too old to learn

Lol! Did you know the oldest person to graduate college was 95 years old? We’re never too old to learn. Even if you have started a family and gotten 7 children, it’s never too late! It’s all about prioritizing. We can always learn new tricks!

You’ve probably run out of excuses now. But don’t let this daunt you. The trick is to start small. Pick one skill and set yourself a target of one hour a week to develop it. If you don’t know where to start, Google resources and create a learning calendar.  

Once you set milestones and give yourself small treats every now and then, you’ll be surprised by what you learn in a few months.

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Is your personal growth stunted? 5 signs that it might be


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What to do when you’ve lost your mojo

We all want to become the best we can be. But what happens when you’ve lost your mojo? There’s a chance that your personal growth might be stunted. There’s no shame in that, it happens to the best of us: sometimes you just get stuck and it feels gross.

Here are some signs to help you tell, and some quick simple ways to overcome it.

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1. You’re really comfortable right now

Life is fine. Like, just fine. Everything is just okay. You’ve got a good steady rhythm at home, at work and in your relationships but it’s been steady like that for A WHILE… to the point of standing still.

You look around you and feel the buzz around you, but you’re on the outside. While being in this position isn’t necessarily bad, it’s not amazing either. It’s just —you guessed it— fine. You’ve stopped growing.

Ask yourself: When did I last get excited about creating something new and of real value?

If you’re struggling to find an answer, it’s time to change. Why not take on a new challenge? Join a society at university, or a network at work. Volunteer at a local charity that your care about or look for opportunities to give your skills to budding entrepreneurs. All you have to do is reach out and ask —over the phone, in person or using social media. It’s all there ready and waiting for you.



2. You’re bored at work

Even when we’re in our dream jobs, work can sometimes be less than glamorous. There’s always that one activity that you’d rather skip. When you face this boredom or frustration you need to….

Ask yourself: Is it time to move on, or do I just need to do something different where I am?

Next, have a conversation. With your boss, your manager or your team (if you are the boss/manager) about new opportunities or projects that you can try out. Of course, the way you ask depends on your role at work, so take that into consideration.

Once you’ve identified these new personal growth goals you can set monthly or weekly goals to drive your progress. Many of us make great 1-5 year plans but struggle to translate them into our daily hustles.

3. You don’t leave conversations feeling inspired, motivated or energized

You can’t remember the last time you learned anything of value, every conversation feels the same. I get it, it’s happened to me before. But too many people blame others, they claim that there aren’t ‘enough people to have intelligent conversation’ with.

Well, before you blame others for anything in life, always look at yourself. Be the change you want to see in the world.

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Ask yourself: What do I bring to the table?

If you’ve followed personal growth steps 1 & 2 above, you may eventually have something new to bring to your conversations. Once you’ve done that, you can start planning how you expand your horizons and your network.

The age-old saying goes, ‘your network is your networth’ and if you haven’t made any new friends lately, maybe it’s time to go to an event, #SheHive or conference to get the conversational juices flowing again.

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4. You know as much as you did yesterday, and the day before that… and the day before that

Sometimes we get stuck because we haven’t learned anything new. Personal growth involves your body AND your brain. We all have our niche —whether it’s fashion, tech, finance, politics or anything in between. But we can all benefit from knowing a little bit of everything across the board.

Some employers call this being a ‘t-shaped’ person, someone who has deep knowledge in a few areas and broad knowledge across many others. These types of people can work well in many situations and are typically more employable.

Ask yourself: When was the last time I learned anything new?

The good news is that in the age of Google, a lot of information is $free.99 – shout out to SLA for this free guide right here. You can learn most of the basics on a shoestring budget, or no budget at all. What have you got to lose?


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5. You lack energy and feel sluggish

Sluggish. What a word, sounds horrible right? You might feel chronically tired, or that you’re living life in slow motion. Sometimes this is because you’ve been working too damn hard, but other times it’s caused by the fact that you aren’t doing much at all. If it’s the latter, the final thing you can do to boost your personal growth is actually get moving.

Ask yourself: How can I shake up my routine in some way?

This might be something really small like changing the route you take to work or your night-time beauty routine. It could also mean becoming more active. YES, I do mean going to the gym, joining a sports team or doing a class.

A little sweat never hurt anyone! It sounds kind of crazy, but the more you work out, the more energy you have for other areas in your life. So, no excuses.

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Doing something new is scary, but life begins outside of your comfort zone. So does personal growth. You’ll be challenged in a new way, and you’ll develop into a more well-rounded person in the process.


How I improve my career resolutions

Are you one of those people who get goosebumps when the thought of their career goals strikes? Or do you have goals in place but it’s just not working??

It’s time to get to business. While you’re making resolutions to work out 3 days a week or stop negative self-talk, why not make a resolution to also invest in yourself and grow your career? 2017 should be your year of growth- financially, emotionally, and professionally.

Since most of us spend a majority of our time at work, changing your career could directly affect personal growth in other areas of your life. Meaning, if you have a good day at work and feel professionally motivated, that evening workout and morning pep talk will be much easier to accomplish.

This guide will provide you with some ideas on how to improve your work life and walk into your job every day like a boss (literally or figuratively).

obama door kickTopics this guide will cover:

  • Loving your job and changing your attitude to set your 2017 up for success
  • Sharpening your skills and investing in yourself in order to promote growth
  • Taking control over your destiny and working towards your passion
  • How to make sure you stick to your resolutions and turn 2017 into your year

Use this guide to reach your career resolutions.

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6 W Words for Ignition: The Guide

Are you one of those people who get goosebumps when the thought of their career goals strikes? Or do you have goals in place but it’s just not working??

Identifying yourself and making career decisions can be daunting, to be honest. You are in this place where you feel you are just living and taking the day as it comes but with no specific plan or destination. It’s actually worse if your friends seem to have it together and know where they are heading and you have nothing to talk about.

So what we have for you in this guide is something that will help you put your plans together. It’s basically some of the questions you should ask yourself when you jot goals and organise your life. At the end of this, you will be proud of what you do.

Topics this guide will cover:

  • The questions you should be asking yourself,
  • Motherland Mogul tips, including discovering your purpose, and
  • Eliminating things that do not move you towards your goal

Is this you right now?

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Ways To End (The Year) Strong

Feeling down and unaccomplished as the year comes to an end? Or just feeling down because the stars aren’t aligned in your favour?

Each day brings so many different feelings. Some days are happy and celebratory. However, others leave you feeling unaccomplished. This can be heightened at the end of the year when you see others celebrate all they have accomplished during the year.

We’re here to say, so what if you haven’t accomplished all of your goals? There is definitely something worth celebrating.

This guide is a self-esteem boost that will ensure you finish off strong! No matter how big or small your achievements are, don’t think less of yourself. This guide will give you that kick you need to finish out strong and take on new challenges like a boss.

Topics this guide will cover:

  • How showing gratitude helps,
  • Ways to stay calm and focused,
  • Celebrating the little things,
  • How to prepare for the fresh start.

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Complete with worksheets, templates and ideas to help boost yourself esteem regardless of the time of the year.

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5 proven ways to improve your personal brand


What exactly is a personal brand? There is no official definition but it’s artful combination of your expertise, talents and skills as well as the platforms that you use to present these. Many people focus only on their personal brand when they’re looking for a job, but the work doesn’t stop there. As a young professional, you can continue to find new opportunities and establish yourself in the job market by keeping your personal brand updated, fresh and in front of the right people.

Whether you are in your first job after youth service or a brand new entrepreneur looking to establish credibility in the market, below are 5 things you can do today to build and sustain your personal brand.

1. Define your brand

lovefolaWhat do you want to be known for? Are there certain attributes that you want to be linked to? What is your area of expertise? What are you passionate about? Once you establish this, you will be able to clearly define your brand. Be specific.

Choosing a general subject matter like “lifestyle” will not make you stand out of the crowd. According to Inc. Magazine, with a niche focus, you’ll have more opportunities to prove you know what you’re talking about. While your potential audience might be slightly smaller, it will also be that much more relevant.

2. Social media presence


Social media platforms are great tools for promoting your personal brand. Make sure that the content on your profiles is consistent across the board and aligns with your brand. Flesh out your LinkedIn profile. Contribute to conversations on Twitter. Delete or untag yourself from questionable pictures on Facebook. Post regular updates about issues you care about on all three. Be careful about the images and videos you upload to Instagram. Remember that all the content you post online contributes to your personal brand.

3. Write


Take advantage of writing opportunities. This allows you to not only share your knowledge but also establish yourself as an expert in your field. You can start by guest blogging for blogs that you admire. If you want to write more frequently, you can start your own blog or create a personal website. An added advantage of having your own website is that it increases the rank for your name on search engines. You can also reach out to newspapers and magazines, and write opinion articles to be published in them.

4. Network

lovefolaNetworking is important in building and growing your personal brand. Engage with other people in your industry both online and offline. Participate in online professional discussions and forums. Attend networking events and be ready to make connections with, share and learn from the people you meet. According to Forbes, your personal brand is strengthened or weakened by your connection to other brands. Find and leverage strong brands that can elevate your own personal brand.

5. Speaking engagements

lovefolaSpeaking at different events gives you an opportunity to demonstrate your expertise and meet new people. It also builds a rapport and trust with your audience. This will allow you to not only communicate effectively with them but also to grow your network. Interacting with people this way differentiates you from your competition and increases your credibility.

Cultivating your personal brand is not an overnight task. Like everything else, it takes patience, perseverance, proactivity and a lot of time. Don’t just limit your personal branding to online tools like LinkedIn and your website. Get out into the world and find opportunities to keep growing and connecting via media interviews, networking events and conferences.

Happy branding!

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