A Motherland Mogul’s Reflections from SLA’s SheHive Toronto 2017

As African women, many of us have not had our life path paved with milk and honey. We have witnessed our mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, cousins, and kin put their lives on hold to work tirelessly long hours for little reward.

As I get older, I see more and more within us lays a common internal battle. In the midst of enacting the legacies of our lives, many of us are also carrying ideas engrained in us by our families.

Holding passions they have never known, we are constantly bombarded by family members pushing us to get into a “real career,” (aka becoming a nurse, doctor, or lawyer).

For creative women, with entrepreneurial visions bouncing off their every thought, balancing these two worlds is a beast to juggle.

We sit in a unique position, one where we must create the blueprint for our lives, because no one has come before us to achieve our success, and no one will come after us. What often halts us in our journeys is the countless intimate moments we have within ourselves.

Moments that cloud our judgment, moments that awaken/terrify us, motivate us, or moments when we wish no one is looking. Most times we feel all of the above. To live out your legacy is soul-shaking work. What we forget is simple, following our dreams is not supposed to be easy.

It is supposed to terrify you, wake you from your sleep, and place a fire under you that cannot be ignored. Last summer I had the amazing opportunity to Attend She Leads Africa’s, She Hive Toronto Conference.

The conference cultivated a space for African women, ambitious beyond words to surround, empower, and inspire each other.

Attending this event shook my soul but, more importantly, it forced me to remember the following:

1) Let your ideas manifest

Too many times we hear and feel parts of our ideas, but most of us never actually give them a chance. We don’t nourish them with our energy and allow them to grow.


What we do is the exact opposite. We allow them to sit idle, we minimize them with our doubt and create a reality that reinforces that we cannot accomplish them.

We tell ourselves we don’t have the resources, money, time, blah, blah, blah! But, once we take that first leap towards our dreams, we allow the universe to become our GPS.

2) Be the energy you need

We need to be our own number one fan and our own advocates. Women need to be a friend, sister, and lover to each other!

Most times, we expect people in our lives to validate us, support us, and invest in us. But, are you the energy you need? Are you that push you want others to bestow upon you, to yourself? We need to give ourselves the energy we ask of others.

Light up that room, be that never-ending inviting spirit, because you benefit from it the most!

3) Ask, ask, ask!

  • Ask the universe.
  • Ask God.
  • Ask friends and family.
  • Ask yourself.
  • Be clear and specific when it comes to your goals and what you need from everyone.
    PS…. this includes figuring out what you need from yourself!
    Need I say more?

4) Know the kind of woman do you want to be

We need to remind ourselves of what kind of women we need to be. What are you not willing to comprise? Do you have your values written down?

What does your integrity mean to you when it is woven into your passion? If we remain grounded in these thoughts we will never regret anything on our path to our dreams.

5) Seek meaningful connections


Networking. Yes, networking is essential. You never know who is in the room. You never know who may be able to assist you or how you can assist another person.

But, even more, important than this, is understanding what meaningful relationships and connections you want with others. Seeking out meaningful connections means you are living authentically. You are not just thinking about a one-sided benefit.

You are considering the person, as a person, a soul to connect with, and not someone who will only be used as a future commodity.

6) With passion, ALL things can be done

Passion is our savior. It stirs you and your being. Our passions give us purpose and demands we show up. Our passions unlock our potential if we allow it to.

Fulfilling the vision and legacies of our passions is terrifying, it will arise a world emotion from you (as it should). Stand firm in knowing the world is awaiting the gifts you have dug a grave for. Be still, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and remind yourself.

“I will accomplish nothing without the taste of fear,” – Zainab Salbi

This article was written by Amma Gyamfowa

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Webinar with Aisha Addo: How to start a non-profit organization (Jun 20)

Aisha Addo is the founder of Power to Girls Foundation, an organization that helps girls identify their true purpose and calling. Join us for a webinar with her on June. 20th, as she shares with us some of her tips on social entrepreneurship.

Entrepreneurship isn’t just one thing. You can be an entrepreneur in a small business, startup, large company etc.

But if you’re interested in making the world a better place, you’re on your way to becoming a social entrepreneur.

You need to ask yourself – What type entrepreneur do I want to become?

Aisha Addo is a social entrepreneur, who has dedicated her life to empowering women and young girls with her initiative – Power To Girls Foundation.

She offers them the mentorship, guidance and the resources they need to achieve their dreams and excel.

Join us for a 45-minute webinar with Aisha Addo on Tuesday, June 20th, 2017. We’ll be discussing what it takes to become a social entrepreneur, and starting a non-profit organization.

Register below to get the exclusive link to the webinar.

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Some of the topics we’ll cover:

  • Starting a non-profit organization
  • Risk taking in social entrepreneurship
  • Having confidence in your idea
  • How to live your most authentic life doing what you love.

Webinar Details:

  • Date: Tuesday, June 20th
  • Time: 11am Toronto / 3pm Accra / 4pm Lagos

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 About Aisha Addo

Aisha Addo is a graduate in Business Administration Accounting, but her true passion and dedication lies in ensuring girls around the world are provided with the guidance and resources that’ll help them to reach their full potential.

Aisha founded Power To Girls Foundation, a non-profit organization to offer young girls the mentors and role models that were absent during her own youth.

She is a recipient of the Young Black and Gifted Award for Community Service, was named a Black Diversity Group Role Model and One of 100 Black Women to Watch in Canada, and also among the 150 Black Women making history in Toronto.

Her latest initiative is DriveHER, the ride-sharing service for women by women.

Facebook Live with Kike-Lola: Becoming your own boss (Jun 5)

The moment you realize you dread going to work three out of five days a week or you develop a passion for something bigger than your salary, you know you’re on the highway to becoming a boss.

Following your passion and becoming an entrepreneur can be a significant lifestyle change especially when you’re scared of getting cash trapped.

Alright, you’re giving us the side-eye and asking  – “How do I pursue my passion when the bills are piling up”?

No need to worry, the real boss herself has answers for you.

Sign up for a Facebook Live session with business coach and founder of My Boss Is Me – Kike-Lola Odusanya. On Monday, 5th June she will be talking to us about ways to becoming your own boss.

Kike-Lola is on a mission to help women around the world see their deepest desires and dreams come to fruition through what she calls “the gift of entrepreneurship.”

Sign up below to get Kike-Lola’s 7 Steps To Quitting Your Job Like a Boss for FREE.

Register below to have access to this opportunity.

Some of the topics we’ll cover

  • Why you should be your own boss
  • Things to do and think about before quitting your Job
  • 7 steps to quitting your job like a boss
  • Maximizing financial security and money issues

Facebook Live Details:

Date: Monday June 5th 2017

Time: 12pm Toronto // 5pm Lagos // 6pm Joburg

Place: facebook.com/sheleadsafrica/

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About Kike-Lola

Kike-Lola is the founder of My Boss Is Me, a virtual and personal development firm. She is a “serial entrepreneur”, author, speaker and a network marketing industry professional best known for a straight-shooting and result-driven approach to business and life.

Born and raised in Toronto, Kike-Lola believes entrepreneurial experience encompasses life skills that all women should develop as a way to reach their fullest potential. That’s why she refers to the entrepreneurial experience as the ultimate life skill.

She realizes business ownership is not for everyone, but Odusanya believes all women can benefit by exploring the mindset, talents, and knowledge of successful entrepreneurs and take control of their lives, proudly declaring, “My Boss Is Me.”


SheHive Toronto: July 13th – 16th 2017

The SheHive train came to the 6 as part of a North America Tour! Check out the fun we had below and join our community to stay up to date on our next SheHive destinations.

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Thanks to our amazing #SheHiveToronto partners

SUPAFRIK is a travelling pop-up concept founded in 2011 to showcase contemporary African culture from music and food to art and fashion. Stops so far have included Toronto, Washington DC, New Orleans, Paris and London

Holiday Inn Toronto Bloor Yorkville (280 Bloor Street West)

Our official accommodation sponsor Westmont Hospitality Group