Like it or not, it happens. You finally decide to do something about this awesome business idea or project, you get immersed in it, then you begin to get tired as this somehow takes over your life.
Suddenly, you look up and realize you have no significant other or anything close to it. You’ve been out of school for about a decade or so which means you’re in your late 20s or early 30s. So, you sort of forget how these things are done.
I know it’s not exactly science, but dating demands some effort. Putting in the grunt work now while you’re still young, is so worth it to find the ‘right’ one for the next phase of your life.
Here are my top four tips for dating as a busy single girl, whatever it is you do and no matter how old you are.
Ask for introductions
Ask your family and friends for referrals. Be downright shameless if you have to! These people know you better than anyone else and will help you meet suitable, pre-vetted people.
You know, like in the same way having someone pass along your resumé can help.
This is an effective way to expand your existing circle. Though there’s no guarantee that this would work but who knows, you might just end up with a new friend or gist buddy.
Be creative with the little time on your hands
No, really. Get innovative. It doesn’t have to be anything nerve-wracking but literally, get yourself out there. I’d say take this glorious moment of singlehood when your life isn’t jam-packed with commitments (except, of course, making truckloads of money).
You may even start giving off that irresistible vibe of a person with passion. You then become the more attractive to potential dates. If you’re an introvert like me, going out might be pretty difficult and I’d suggest doing only things that make you comfortable.
These ideas prove that love doesn’t really cost a thing or much:
– Volunteering
– Free concerts
– Go to the movies
– Attend weddings…I know it’s cliché but still.
– Go out with friends
– Attend birthday parties
You never know where the right people might find you.
Online dating … don’t rule it out yet
It’s hard to deny the fact that online dating isn’t just the new normal —it also works. Of course, like all good things, relying on online dating has its downsides. So, I’d say be careful (you’re too smart to be scammed, girl).
Be sure to keep your expectations in check. Remember, even a bad date can be a good learning experience.
Invite the best. Cut off the wrong people
You’re already so busy and can’t afford the luxury of having the wrong person around you.
Don’t be one of those people who hang around, enduring disrespect, taking inconsistent calls or texts, hoping that one day this person will change.
Give yourself a little tough love and delete the wrong person(s) from your life. You don’t have to convince anyone of your worthiness. Trust yourself and let go of the insecurities and soon, you’ll know what to do and who is right for you.